Are good looks important - be honest!

**Dunnymonster** · 10-07-2008, 08:46 PM

Now here is a question that I expect will divide many, but how many people will answer honestly? Given that we all like to dress nice ( this is a fashion forum afterall ) and that we probably spend a fair bit on looking as good as we can ( are we vain?), how important is it that any prospective partner in a relationship is good looking? Now I know this can be an subjective question, because of course what I might believe to be beautiful in a woman, could be very different to what another guy see's as beautiful and like wise for women to men. But I think it is accepted that there is a type of Universal beauty that everybody kind of agrees on. For example, I'm not gay but I can see that David Beckham is a good looking guy, and I assume most women would agree. Likewise I think Angelina Jollie is a Beautiful woman and i think most women would agree. Now I know we all say Beauty is only skin deep. Are we just saying that because we don't want to be seen as a shallow person? How many of you have been on a blind date, maybe on a dating agency and have perhaps texted each other, or spoke on the phone several times and thought he/she seems really nice only to be dissappointed when you finally met. Ladies here is one for you, how often have you had a guy friend who you think is a really nice person, who then made a pass at you, and you said sorry I dont like you that way I just want to be friends? ( he is a nice guy but i dont fancy him!) Anyway, answer as honestly as you can...........

darkside_kiddo · 10-08-2008, 12:32 AM

It does matter a bit as it's one of the first things we notice about other people (on a regular basis), but it's not really important. The inside should matter the most i'd say, looks being merely a bonus

altitude · 10-08-2008, 06:06 AM

in the world in which we function of course they are. we are all manipulated by the media into believing good looks are everything.

MachielS · 10-08-2008, 08:04 AM

well, its a fact that 'good' looking people are hired faster and have lots of other more benefits. And to be honest, i couldnt be together with a girl i dont find attractive. Maybe im shallow, but thats the way i am. With finding attractive i also mean the way a girl acts. Couldnt be together with someone who is the best looking girl of the world, but her inside is like Paris Hilton (just an example). For a relationship it has to click on all levels. imo
And maybe its not just how you physicly look. To me the main point is: How does somebody take care of himself. Does he do his/her hair, dress up nice, shows selfconfidence.
But beauty is in the eye of the beholder! (thats english isnt it? :p )

Jaqoda · 10-08-2008, 01:15 PM

They have to be hot if they want to roll with me.

honcho · 10-08-2008, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaqoda

They have to be hot if they want to roll with me.

and how "hot" are you exactly. photos required.

**Dunnymonster** · 10-08-2008, 06:39 PM

For me, so long as I find the girl attractive to me, it doesnt matter whether she fits the standard Beauty mold. The Chemistry is the most important thing in my mind, the lady has to turn me on physically and be fun to be with. I couldnt be around a moaning bore who is frightened to get her hair wet. I am certainly not into collecting Trophy girlfriends, and to be honest very attractive girls would never give me a second look I don't think. Looks are what make you take notice, but ultimately its their personallity that makes you stay with them long term. They have to become not only my girlfriend but my best mate too!

Jaqoda · 10-08-2008, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by honcho

and how "hot" are you exactly. photos required.

Doesn't matter how hot I am, I would say the majority of women tend to be more interested in a man who's successful, funny and confident than a man who's simply good looking. That said it doesn't help if you're flabby, spotty, bad teeth etc but my point is that men who are relatively unattractive physically can still attract beautiful women as long as they have other attractive traits. Conversely I think you'll find it harder to meet successful, confident and funny women who are unattractive but yet still have a hot boyfriend.

volley · 10-10-2008, 06:13 AM

there is far more pressure on women to look good than for men. it is so unfair.

Candleguy · 10-10-2008, 07:51 AM

It is biology unfortunately volley..

Looks are vital to a man period. as michael said, if he didn't find her attractive it would go nowhere- thats how it is. but in many ways women can be just as dogmatic. I know many guys who are absolutely hilarious and never get a second look, so the "sense of humour" attraction to a man i find hard to believe, i have a lot fo respect for a woman who can admit that although it isn't everything she would quite like a man with lots of cash and a big ****

sorry